Searching For Emotional or Energetic Stress Relief?
Carrying Too Much Emotional or Energetic Baggage?
Emotional or ‘energetic’ baggage seems to come in excess for holistic caregivers and practitioners. Is this because you’re putting yourself out there too much? Maybe you feel like you’re just a mess and you’re just paying your dues. Do you often wonder why you can help others so well but can’t seem to help yourself?
If these questions and statements resonate with you……
Put those bags down! They’re not yours!
When I recently surveyed several groups of
holistic caregivers
and practitioners (Reiki, acupuncture, yoga, massage, etc.), I asked them what their biggest issue as a
holistic practitioner
has been. The overwhelming response was “taking on their clients ‘energetic’ baggage.”
Drawing from my own personal experience I know this to be true. I was always helping others, listening, coaching, advising, empathizing, etc. I would eventually find myself drained, energetically depleted or depressed for seemingly no reason. Never one to give up, I would keep going until I completely
crashed.
I would often be “crashed” for 3 to 4 days, holed up in bed, on the couch, ignoring the phone, the door, and the mail. I avoided all contact as much as possible during a crash. My family and friends learned to tip-toe around me during those times.
During my ‘crash’ times I would let out all of the dark, negative, victim thoughts until I was empty. To bring myself back up (and into the land of the living) I would slowly start feeding myself positive reinforcements.
This pattern impacted my relationships with my family, friends and my job.
After years of living this way, I began searching for a way to change this pattern. Here’s what I call my GIVER method to keep me from carrying others ‘energetic’ baggage.
- G – Ground myself. I start and end each day and process with grounding myself. Grounding is connecting your mind, body and spirit to each other and then to the earth and the divine. If you do not have a grounding method or want to learn more
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- I – Intention. After grounding I set my intention for the day or process. If I am giving someone healing I start with and chant my intention statement for that process. This keeps me focused on the end result I am seeking and keeps my ‘stuff’ from mixing with theirs. An example of an intention statement is: “I send this healing energy where it is needed. I will not take away from the lesson that is needed to be learned here. I leave what is necessary and send what is not, back to mother earth. I do no harm. I send and receive love.” I chant this mantra out-loud or in my head throughout the process.
- V – Visualize. I visualize what is being released from the person. I see it in my mind as it travels out of them and either directly into the earth (my first choice) or passes through me (I concentrate on just being a channel and not hanging onto any of it) and into the earth. I visualize them as being healed and healthy.
- E – Evaluate & Expel. I do a check in with myself during and after a process. I will take an internal inventory of thoughts and feelings and evaluate what is truly my ‘baggage’ and what is not. Anything that is not mine or just plain needs releasing, gets expelled. I visualize it (usually looks like black crud to me) coming out of my chakra’s and down into the earth where it becomes fertilizer that helps me continue to grow. I continue expelling until I sense that it is gone.
- R –Replenish. I then replenish myself by drawing bright healing light from the earth and the divine. I continue to cycle it throughout my body, mind and spirit until I feel re-energized. I close with gratitude for the gift of a never ending supply of energy and love.
I created the GIVER method as I learned that taking on and carrying other peoples energetic baggage was actually robbing them of a lesson they were meant to learn. That was like saying they weren’t capable of carrying their own baggage and deciding when to release it. Since becoming a coach I have learned to hold each person as whole, complete and capable. I do this with compassion, faith and love. I always practice being a GIVER. I encourage you to try the GIVER method and share your experience with me!
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